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Blame Game

Blame Game

A Kindred Story by Jennie Robinson

I grew up with two sisters. As you can imagine, life was interesting with three little girls roaming around our small home. If you have siblings then you know very well that banter and bickering comes naturally with more than one sibling in the house. Yet, when we do something wrong, our instinct is to throw the blame at another sibling. My sister Kellie — four years younger — was an expert at tossing the blame to me when the error was made by herself. Yet, she was always believed over my own testimony and I was ultimately blamed for the mistakes of my little sister. And if I were honest, it was more upsetting because she couldn’t come forward with owning her mistakes. 

It may seem silly to compare a sibling story with our walk with Christ, but we do this so often as Christians and the truth remains relevant even in a simple story. We may not toss the blame at our siblings like we used to, but we certainly blame much of our life’s hardships on one of two things: God or the devil. 

I did this just the other day while trying to get back home. I woke up at 7 am to go to the grocery store and pick up breakfast. I had invited over six women to eat and celebrate with me as I invited them to be bridesmaids. So, I went to Walmart, got my groceries, walked back to my car and put my groceries away. I hopped in my car, started the engine and…nothing. It tried to turn over, but wouldn’t. So, I sat there and the first thought that came to my mind, quite literally, was “either the devil wants to sabotage my wedding or God doesn’t want me to get married.” Can you believe that thought actually crossed my mind!? I didn’t even hesitate to blame God or the devil — I blamed them both. 

What really happened is this…my car did the exact same thing one week prior and I ignored the issue when I should have gotten it checked. The fact that it happened again wasn’t God or the devil, but my own negligence.

God is not a controlling God — He is a God of free will. We get to make our own choices and think our own thoughts. With that, however, comes the responsibility to control those thoughts. If we don’t, we can easily blame God or the devil for everything that happens to us without owning up to our mistakes and growing from them. 

We can even convince ourselves out of our own calling because we struggle to differentiate between what God wants and/or what we think the devil is trying to convince us to do or believe. 

Therefore, we must be careful not to toss the blame, but to own up and grow up so that we can truly be the women he has called us to be. 

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